Monday, November 14, 2011

Media Review: Keeping your child in mind: Overcoming defiance, tantrums, and other everyday behavior problems by seeing the world through your child’s eyes


Keeping your child in mind: Overcoming defiance, tantrums, and other everyday behavior problems by seeing the world through your child’s eyes
By Claudia Gold, MD

Written by a child psychologist, this book covers a broad range of parenting challenges with a unifying approach:  holding your child in mind.  In essence, as you recognize the thoughts & emotions behind your child’s behavior, you help them develop the ability to regulate themselves.  Each chapter focuses on a specific age (from baby to teen) and combines real-life examples with in-depth explanations of child development research.  The book offers no quick-fix solutions.  Instead, the author helps parents understand how their own childhood experiences and their current emotions affect their relationship with their child, enabling parents to lay aside these things in order to see their child’s perspective.  Once a child feels understood, they have a sense of security that results in improved behavior. 

Media Review: Potty training girls the easy way: A stress-free guide to helping your daughter learn quickly


Potty training girls the easy way: A stress-free guide to helping your daughter learn quickly
By Caroline Fertleman, MD & Simone Cave

This quick read provides a gentle, laid-back plan for potty training.  By starting with 1-hour sessions that celebrate each small milestone, then extending the length and number of sessions as desired over a couple weeks, girls learn to use the toilet in a positive, pressure-free way.  As if having a conversation with a trusted friend, this book offers practical advice on every aspect of potty training:  knowing when your daughter is physically & mentally ready, shopping for supplies, responding to accidents, using public restrooms, sleeping without diapers, troubleshooting and more.  The checklists and short “scripts” for what to say are especially handy.  Best of all is the reassuring, relaxed tone of the book and the potty training plan.  When your daughter is ready and the experience is positive, she can progress quickly out of diapers and into a confident big girl.



Tuesday, November 8, 2011

"Great Expectations" Childbirth Preparation Classes at Parents' Place

by Simone Snyder CMT, CD, ICCE

There are many reasons why expectant parents should enroll in a childbirth education class.  Not only do you get to learn about what to expect during pregnancy, labor and postpartum but you get to socialize and learn from and with other expectant couples. The goal of any childbirth preparation class is to provide information so that individuals are able to make informed decisions-the result of any childbirth preparation class is just plain old fun!

Every childbirth class is different, each educator brings her own style, method, and life experience to the class.  As a childbirth educator myself I see great value in learning from and observing other educators teach and interact with her students.  I was excited to find out upon moving to the area that in addition to all the wonderful classes Parents' Place offers-childbirth preparation was also on the list.  The classes are taught by Tricia Williams, RN and this is what she had to say about her classes...


The Saturday Childbirth Class is one day, from 9-12, then 1-4.  We see many good films, some with wonderful animation to show the stages of labor and the changes of the cervix during this process.  I like this film because, as we talk about the process of labor, I like this visual because it is powerful for to visualize this process while in labor because it helps women look inside their body and work with the contractions.  They can see that the contraction is pushing the baby down, and pulling up, dilating the cervix and effacing it. After working for 20+ years with women, I found this to be a very powerful visualization, not to be done before labor begins. We talk about the fear of pain, what is it that they fear?  If they have never been in labor it is speculative, so why not stop listening to the negative stories from friends and TV, and start telling themselves they can give birth and see themselves breathing that baby down into their arms. 

We talk about interventions, see a film on all of the interventions, and talk about them, "Plan B" if they have a cesarean section that they need  to plan appropriately. Then we practice almost an hour of breathing and relaxation exercises as well as hands on comfort measures that dads and support can do to help moms. I give the a recipe for Laborade, an electrolyte drink they can make themselves, how to talk to their doctor, research interventions and ask about risks and benefits. What do they do if labor slows down, mom has back labor?  If mom has an epidural, there are still things she can do to help the baby move.  When it is time to rest, when it is time to actively participate in your labor?

If you ever get the  chance to just sit and talk with a childbirth educator or doula you can just feel the passion for what she does radiating off of her and that is what I sense from Tricia as well. If you or someone you know is pregnant I highly recommend enrolling in the "Great Expectations" childbirth preparation class.  Not only will you learn a great deal you will leave feeling empowered and supported.

The next class is November 19th.  Please contact Parents' Place for more information. 

I have also included some articles on the importance of childbirth classes and how to pick the best class for you.

Mothering
http://www.mothering.com/pregnancy-birth/choosing-childbirth-education-class

Lamaze
http://www.lamaze.org/IntheNews/NewsReleases/FiveTipsforChoosingaChildbirthEducationClas/tabid/957/Default.aspx

Birthsource
http://www.birthsource.com/scripts/article.asp?articleid=193

Monday, October 10, 2011

“Into These Hands-Wisdom from Midwives” edited by Geradine Simkins-A Review

By Simone Snyder

Close your eyes.  Imagine you are in a room with twenty-five of your favorite midwives.  In this room you are able to ask them any question.  Why did you become a midwife? What obstacles did you face? How did you balance family life and midwifery? What was life like when you first got started? Were you scared? Who inspired you? What advice do you have for aspiring midwives? Seasoned midwives? Where do we go from here?


Now open your eyes.  You have manifested in front of you “Into These Hands-Wisdom from Midwives” edited by Geradine Simkins. 

This book is nothing short of sacred.  Twenty-five stories from twenty-five beyond incredible women.  Filled with a combination of personal story, history, politics, inspiration, tips, tools, and advice for the future.  The reader is brought back to a time many of us long for.  The sixties and seventies.  A time of social upheaval, getting back to nature, the counter-culture, human rights, a woman’s health revolution, “Ourbodies, Ourselves,” you get the picture.  What was it like to be called to midwifery when all of this was going on around you? How did midwifery present itself to you? (more questions to ask when in that room).

“Into These Hands” permits the reader to gain a better understanding of the roots of midwifery and women’s health.  The words and stories are powerful enough on their own but when viewed along side the cultural context of then and now-they are intensified.  We read this book to tap in to this energy, this revolutionary spirit to remember what work is still left to be done, continued.  For most if not all of these women it was and is about more than just midwifery.  It is about community, education, and basic human rights.

That essence that draws us to midwives is captured in this book.  If you weren’t already a midwife groupie (like me) then be prepared to become one.  Seek out a midwife in your community and do whatever you can to spend as much time with her as possible.  It’s addicting!

The women that shared their stories come from all over the world, from different backgrounds and cultures, have received different training and have different initials behind their names but regardless of their personal beliefs they are all united for one common cause. 

The stories are a connection between midwives (any birthworker) past, present, and future.  The very idea of how many thousands of lives were touched by the personal care, attention-by the hands of these midwives is almost unfathomable.  Lives changed, lives saved, women empowered and nurtured, babies welcomed gently, families strengthened. 

I had just moved to the Monterey Bay area when I began reading this book and I was delighted to have the opportunity to read about Maggie Bennett.  Reading the story she wrote for Into These Hands was like reading a history lesson not only of midwifery but of the community I had so recently become a part of.  As a doula and childbirth educator it was exactly what I needed at exactly the right time.  Thank you to Maggie Bennett for the work you have done for this community and for donating a copy of the book to the Parents' Place library.

If you still have not grasped just how much I adored this book let me put it to you this way.  On more than one occasion I woke up in the middle of the night hugging it.  Having fallen asleep reading it in my arms because I just could not let it go.

For more information visit: http://www.wisdomfrommidwives

Monday, July 25, 2011

We Feed Our Babies Love

From the summer 2011 newsletter-a collaborative editorial by Chinanit, Elizabeth, Gail and Jennifer

From the first moment you discover you are pregnant, and perhaps even before, parents are faced with a plethora of decisions centered on the well-being of your child.  Parenting is a series of making decisions, some of which there are no perfect answers and this can feel overwhelming to any parent, especially a new one.  In that spirit, at Parents' Place we encourage parents to gather information about childrearing in order to make decisions that are best for their child/family/selves based on their own values and options available to them.

Some of the choices that parents face are: where and how to give birth, where your child sleeps and when to make changes in this, how you approach discipline and limit setting.  It may be challenging at times for a parent who is passionate about their parenting choices to witness another parent in action whose choices are vastly different from their own.  At Parents' Place we strive to create an environment that respects and honors many different parenting styles.

One of the first of many choices a family is faced with is how to feed their baby: to breastfeed or to bottle feed.  Lately we have noticed a cultural backlash for mothers who are not breastfeeding whether by choice or by circumstance.  It makes us sad to hear that a mother, who may be experiencing grief for the loss of a choice she may have dearly wanted, is now hurt further by judgements from others.  Have we forgotten that you don't know what anybody is going through until you have walked a mile in their shoes?

We want to acknowledge that it can be disappointing and overwhelming for a parent when they have their heart set on parenting a certain way and it does not work out as they intended.  It is common and appropriate to experience grief, sadness, and bewilderment as one charts this new path.

Possibly because breastfeeding is prevalent at Parents' Place, some mothers may be uncomfortable or hesitant to share their journey of how and what their baby is fed.  This is not how we envision our community to be.  We want Parents' Place to be a safe place for all parents to discuss their challenges and success no matter what their choices or circumstances. Words of support and encouragement build family confidence and a sense of community.

You have heard us say many times, "We feed our babies love." The reason we do this is to remind everyone that the main ingredient in parenting is love, and that we believe that all parents are dedicated to making the best choices for their children in any given situation.  When we respect different styles and choices within our parenting community it enriches us and benefits everyone.